Yesterday I went to teach one of my regular students and her horse. She had planned to ride during the session and since she rides an arabian mare (wgo very easily gets tense), we worked mostly on relaxation and lowering of the neck and head. It was our second lesson with this exact topic and they have made great improvements since I saw them last time. The first 30 minutes went so great, but then suddenly the mare refused to pick up the trot on the right lead. From one second and to the next the problem occurred all of a sudden. Every time she was asked to move forward she would look out of the circle as if she was trying to avoid some kind of pain, irritation or something like it. We kept asking her kindly as we wondered she might just be a little tired and tried to say “no thanks – I am tired now”. Yet that did not seem to be the case and the behaviour continued. I asked my student to stop the mare and I went to her left side to see if I could find any sore muscles or anything else that might hurt her. As I reached her butt she simply started pushing towards me and asked me to keep rubbing her. Obviously that was not a sore spot, but just her enjoying my little massage on her butt. I continued to wonder and did not get any wiser on what was going on nor what caused her change of behaviour.
We decided not to provoke the mare anymore and ended the session quietly as she just walked with her a bit after I left. I told her to just keep an eye on her and see if the behaviour kept being there or went away before the next day. Towards the end of our session I started to feel a terrible pain in the left side of my stomach. I was rather annoyed with it as it hurt like hell, but I kept quiet as not to interrupt my student and ruin her lesson. I wrote it off the have been caused by too little lunch as I have experienced terrible stomachache for that reason previously more than once. Usually it takes about 1 hour at least before it settles and my stomach stops complaining… When I left my student and the mare to drive home with my dad I told him as the first thing when I sat in the car that I must had too little lunch. That I had a terrible pain in my stomach. When I came home 10 minutes later it was still there, but within nothing less than 5 minutes it was completely gone. I even tried to provoke it by moving around a bit because I simply could not believe where it went. I had not eaten anything yet?
I don’t know why the idea crossed my mind, but for some reason I decided to write to my student. I asked her to please try and put her hand on the mare’s stomach in the left side and see if she gave any responses. Only a few minutes passed before she replied and told me that the mare became furious, swished her tail and laid down her ears. I was completely blown away. Could it really be? Could it really be the case that the terrible pain I felt was not even my own, but actually the reason why the mare started acting weird all of a sudden? I probably never will know for sure, but even though I don’t think I have ever experienced something as clear as this before I believe that there must have been a connection between the two things. It was sort of a creepy experience, but at the same time a huge gift for me to experience that I actually can be able to let so much in that I feel the pain of another being. Through all the books I have read written my empathic and connected people I have heard about the ability to share a thought of feeling with another being. I have always dreamt about one day being able to feel it on my own body and mind too, but I was never sure if that ever would be reality…